Finding My Way Back to Me
This isn't a post about spotting red flags. There are plenty of those lists already, and I've come to believe they can just as easily teach the wrong people how to hide better. This is about something quieter: what happened inside me, and how I'm finding my way back. The journey Looking back, it wasn't one big moment that hurt me. It was continuous disappointment, small letdowns that I kept explaining away. My culture, my beliefs, and my picture of the "ideal husband" shaped what I was willing to accept. Slowly I began to see how wrong things had become, and how different the reality was from what I had hoped for. Losing my identity The hardest part to admit is how much of myself I lost. After earlier pain and bad experiences, I convinced myself that what I needed was a distant partner, someone who wouldn't be free to disturb me. I told myself that was safety. It wasn't. It was my wounds making choices for me. That was never who I was, and some...